Shit Just Got Real – Every Bitch Should Have A Blog Is Now A Self Hosted Website

This story is long and there are no pictures.  Hang in there … I am not a horrible writer and I kept big words to a minimum.

As quiet as it’s kept, I am in the middle of growing a lifestyle brand that caters to the lesbian community.  Bielyouintee is the evolution of an idea I came up with back in 2001.

Originally B.L.U.N.T, an acronym for Black Liberation Under New Terms, was envisioned to be a non profit organization that sought to bridge the social and economic disparity of Black People.  But who was I kidding at 20 with an idea so powerful?  I didn’t even continue my education.  At the very least, over the next years, I could have nurtured a professional network – I mean with or without school, I’ve always been quite the conversationalist – but nope.  I just sat the idea on a damned shelf.

There was a reprieve once.  Not even a reprieve, technically because it was the first time I’d shared the idea outside of my friends and confidants but I did throw together a “jack-leg” site at the height of the Black Lives Matter campaign thinking it was the perfect time, but it wasn’t.  I wrote 2 posts and when I didn’t get any readers, I never went back.

This idea has been the source of a lot of grief.  Long sleepless nights of me wondering why the heck I made the decisions I made?  If I had’ve just done what I was supposed to do, B.L.U.N.T. would be a thing and we would have a voice.  I would feel fulfillment which I don’t.  I have never in my life worked to my fullest potential for anything, not even things I am passionate about.  Pot heads just aren’t those people (for the most part) and it’s unfulfilling.

I had resolved that this is my life and my gift was the ability to struggle gracefully.  But then Trump was elected and life as I knew it really changed.  Before this man got elected, as resolved as I was, I am never far from snapping.  And crazy thoughts like resurrecting my kindergarden and first grade teacher from their grave to verbally abuse them for making me think being what you wanted to be was as simple as saying, “I wanna be a lawyer,” always play around in my head.

Personally, I don’t think it is right that no one said anything about foster care, crack, hormones, or what you will or won’t do for the love of glory.  No one said anything about getting cheated, cheated on, or abuse.  No mention of how attractive the streets can be or any deterrents for that matter.  But when Trump got elected, none of that mattered, it turned out that my earliest educators were 100% right.

Trump getting elected meant I, too, can do and be exactly what I want to do and be.  I don’t need not one credential and I actually have 19 on paper so actually I am ahead of the game.  If an ass could run America, then I can attempt to bridge the social and economic disparities suffered by the Black Community with absolutely no experience whatsoever.

Since January, I have repurposed B.L.U.N.T. and now I am repurposing this blog.  Every Bitch Should Have A Blog is now it’s own thing.  Instead of it being ebshab.wordpress.com, I am self-hosting it at here at ebshab.com and instead of it being what it is now, it stands as a tool that promotes transparency, something extremely important to me and anything I embark on.  I like being see through – call me Casper.  Every Bitch Should Have A Blog will be my personal site where I detail this brand, how it was born, and why it exists.  It will be where the mission statement is, the brand values are and the future.  It will be what I have done, why it was done, and what it will bring.  It will be where you can watch passion, ambition, and determination meet.  It will also be where you watch my old ass shoot in the dark, since I am way out of my league. 

Also, ebshab.com will be a model in itself for any and everyone who wants to create a brand or anyone who has an important message they want to get out.  You will learn a lot, as will I.  I think mistakes are some of the greatest learning tools and I will happily share them.  You can see what I have done, step by step, and you can copy exactly what I have done, step by step.  Two weeks ago with next to nothing, I launched bielyouintee.com and since then I have had over 200 people to my site without spending any money in advertising, so I know a little something something and I am happy to share and show how I do it.

If you visit bielyouintee.com, you will see there is a blog there.  I’ll bet you are wondering why I wouldn’t just use that blog instead of creating a whole new site?  And I will tell you, I thought about it.  However, the question arises, is this the eCommerce store of a lifestyle brand or is this retard all over the place?  Like Donald Trump I may be shooting in the dark, but unlike Trump I am no asshole or dummy.  Bielyouintee.com wants to be a destination for the lesbian community that promotes looking and living good.  Ebshab.com wants to connect leaning on the values of building strong relationships, authenticity, and transparency.

In a week or so, I will be launching ebshab.com.  I am waiting on my first product sample that I ordered on Friday and to meet with a friend who has a camera.  So far, I am starting with an even longer ass story that details the evolution of B.L.U.N.T. to Bielyouintee.  I will be dropping the story in installments and already I have 6 in the waiting and they are good.  Drugs, displacement, and struggle are a few of the themes and you’ll be introduced to my 3 old best friends and my newest best friend whom I call my midlife crisis.  I have a lot of great things planned for this blog. 

If my writing has been compelling enough, not only are you still reading then you probably want to know when ebshab.com really pops off.  If my writing has been compelling enough, you don’t just want to know when the site goes live, you want the inside scoop.  If this is the case, I would love an opportunity to start growing my email list.  You can join the list here.

Do not expect any drawn out emails either.  I do not have an automated set of emails to bombard you day by day by day.  As it stands, I want to stay as organic and liquid as I possibly can.  Besides, I hate being interested enough to give up my email address and everything I receive is generic.  That really bothers me and I do not intend on being that person.

Also, growing on the social networks is extremely important but it is very challenging.  I freaking suck on Instagram, FaceBook, and Twitter.  I am diligently learning to get better but talking to myself is pretty disheartening.  If you are active on any of these sites, I would love to connect.  You can find me on all three sites @studsopetty.

I cannot express how excited I am to be embarking on a project such as this.  Please comment and tell me what you think so far, but more importantly, tell your friends and stay tuned.

2 thoughts on “Shit Just Got Real – Every Bitch Should Have A Blog Is Now A Self Hosted Website”

  1. I am so super excited to read all of what makes you, You! I’ve always loved the way you can put your thoughts and words together in a way that the masses can not only understand but also relate. You have a special gift! I will definitely be staying up to date with your work and wishing you nothing but the best of luck and and everything your heart desires.

    1. Oh Wow!!! Thank you so much Bell, for your compliments and your support throughout the years. You mean the absolute world to me. #MyBestieBettaThanYours

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